Tuesday, May 18, 2010

I finally told my dad.

Monday morning, before I leave to go to the referred of the Manila Health clinic where I will have my lab tests. I called my dad over the landline, saying I need to see him and I need to tell him something, he asked "what is it?', I told it's something he needs to know, and I told him that I am going to Manila to go to a lab to have some tests done, I also mentioned to him that I have been going to the hospital for about a month now... There I was already giving him hints that I am going through something. I told him that whatever it is that he will know, all I asked is for him to be open minded about it, forgive me and hopefully, don't go away ever again.

After I long day around Metro Manila (I dropped by a Mixed Martial arts gym after I went to the clinic). I was finally on my home when dad called up, saying they are having dinner and he will bring his wife (my stepmom), I immediately said "no" in a very loud voice, I said "it's something very sensitive", he said "okay".

I arrived in my condo at 8:00 PM, my dad arrived an hour after. He bought a bag full of bread, he said it was from his wife. I offered water, and he sat on my bamboo mat (I don't have any sofa). I presented him the lab tests and asked if he knows anything about what was written in them, he then explained to me what he knows about the numbers. After he explained and told me that I have to minimize eating meat because of my HDL and LDL, he was just quiet, there was silence for a about a minute or two or more. I looked him in the eye, and said... "dad I'm sick of an incurable disease". My dad's eyes suddenly turned "teary eyed" and red... At that point I think he already knew of what I was about to say. I then uttered the words "may HIV ako" (I have HIV). He then right away explained to me how it can be contracted, what will be the effects and that it will eventually become AIDS. I stopped him. I told him to stop educating me about it because I already know the facts and figures about the virus. He then said "where is your bible?". I hurriedly stood up, went to my small bookcase and grabbed my bible. He took it and opened it to some particular verse which I could no longer remember... (I tried to recall and find it). He made me read a couple of verses more. Then he held my hand, saying "I cannot condemn you, you are my son, my one and only son. Galing ka sa tadyang ko.... Nailayo ka na sa akin ng mahabang panahon, at ngayon na lang tayo nagkakakilanlan. Mahal kita, at hindi ko pababayaang ilayo ka sa akin ng sakit na 'yan". At that point, tears just fell from my eyes and I can't help but cry like a little child whose father has gone away and went home for the first time after so long. I then knew how much my dad loves me.

Dad said that with God, everything is possible, I must welcome God in my life and correct all that is wrong. He said that I must have a very strong spirituality and faith in God, everything starts there. he said to change my lifestyle, he did not mentioned any particulars, but he just said that lifestyle word. I remained quiet.

My dad's a pastor, so God is everything to him. We prayed together that night. He said he will anoint me. He has his oil with him, and he told me to put both of my hands on the opened bible, and he said "repeat after me"... The words I couldn't recall anymore. I knew that time, that I will be saying hello to Christianity and goodbye Catholicism. Then he told me to stop repeating after him. Then he prayed out loud.... The next few words touched my heart, it somehow melted all the hate it has and darkness that envelops it. My dad uttered in prayer "Lord, ito na ang pinakahihintay kong pagkakataon na isuko sa inyo ang aking mahal na anak". I myself, surrendered to God at that point.

After being anointed into Christianity, my dad said he will make a lot of Virgin Coconut Oil and will get wild honey for me. Virgin Coconut Oil is a good anti-everything, and wild honey has a lot of properties to boost up our bodies. He told to eat whole grain or whole wheat bread moderately as well as oats; because they have something to do with the uric acid stuff in our bodies. he told me a lot of herbal and diet stuff that I must do. He told me that after his long retreat to the mountains down south of Manila, we will start our Monday Bible day, which is June 7. I promised my dad that by that time, I have read at least half of the bible... So I have a lot of reading to do.

I love you dad. I'm really sorry this had to happen to me. Thank you for accepting what and who I am. Thank you for staying beside me in this battle to stay alive.

15 comments:

  1. No one will fully understand us but our parents. And I applaud you for the courage of finally telling your dad about your situation. :)

    Hingi mo na rin ako ng VCO sa dad mo. hehe. :p

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  2. hi there, nice entry.. it made me cry. honestly. nice to meet you..

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  3. @Fred: Surely!
    @Thechemistryguy: Nice to meet you, thanks for becoming a follower of my blog.

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  4. Text me if you have the VCO na. :D

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  5. Hi there. I'm new to this world of POZZIES. Can I be your friend Canonista? I have no pozzie friends yet? GOD and my sister are the only 2 sources of my strenght right now. I'm drinking VCO as well and taking B+ since my CD4 are still above 500.

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  6. I replied to the email the blogsite sent me regarding your post@Braveheart. I realiezed the reply cannt be sent because it was a forwarded message regarding this comment of yours. LOL.

    Anyway, yes, I can be your friend. We positives have one another in this battle to stay alive.

    You can email me at iamembracinglife@gmail.com

    Be happy, embrace life, embrace God.

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  7. naiyak ako grabe...you're lucky to have a father like yours...

    in God's way..everything will be fine!

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  8. God has his ways, dear blogger. His thoughts are higher than ours, for he knew us before we were even born.

    Please refer to the story of Christopher Yuan. His story like yours touched me and I hoped his life will inspire you to follow Christ even more.

    http://www.christopheryuan.com/
    http://www.omnitube.org/hope-positive.html
    http://christopheryuan.blogspot.com/2007/02/my-testimony-of-gods-grace.html
    http://www.godtube.com/watch/?v=990CJNNU

    God bless you

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  9. Thank you Mr. Anonymous for the URLs, and I thank you for visiting my blog.

    I will visit those sites right away!

    God bless, and have a great day ahead!

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  10. Hello,

    I've been reading your blog and this particular entry caught my attention. Just like you I'm also a Christian.

    My 20 years as a Christian has been a roller coaster ride, and I got really tired. So tired, that I forgot how to be a believer. I unintentionaly/intentionaly dismissed God. And this lagged on for years, Until today.

    I would like to share what happened...

    Personal Problems, lust, sex, money, fears, being gay and so on... engulfed my being. And my sins made me forget God. Today I was so consumed with the task of budgeting my finances that it got me exhausted. And so I thought I'd catch a break by watching tv just to get my mind off things. Well, that didn't help. Then I thought perhaps the internet can help me relax... see what's going on in facebook. Until, I heard a knock. It's as if God is tearing the door down. God and prayer were the last 2 things in mind. But God was impatient today and He took His time out to pay me a visit... I just froze! (I feel so blessed today). my eyes closed involuntarily and I just surrendered everthing to God today... My sins separated me from God. He owes me nothing. God is good. He knew I needed rest, He knew that I was already at the edge of a cliff. Once again He came to my rescue, as He did 20 years ago.

    What I am trying to say. God will never forsake us. Though our sins directs us away from God. In all His goodness... He Himself will find a way to find his lost lamb and bring it back to the herd.

    Continue to pray... God will surely nourish and sustain you holisticaly. Just don't lose faith. God bless you.

    I will keep you in my prayers.

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  11. Hi Lawrence,

    Thank you for the nice and enlightening words about God. As for me, I have been close to God, I mean, God has never been out of my mind and heart as I was growing up and as I am taking this journey.

    It is true, that no matter what happens, we must never lose faith.

    Thank you, Lawrence. I'm glad someone else is also a believer.

    Will pray for you too.

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  12. pinaiyak mo naman ako ng ke aga-aga.....


    salamat sa pagshare ng stories mo :-) and ingatan mo na health mo from now on...

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  13. Hi Canonista,

    This post made me cry.

    Pat

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  14. Natutuwa ako sanaging reaction ng tatay mo. di ko alam kung pano ako napadpad sa blog mo, but im sure glad I stumbled upon it.
    I had a friend who wasnt as strong as you were when he found out he had the virus. He ended his life. I was abroad and couldnt do anything. Somehow, I found peace by reading through some of your entries. Keep educating your readers.

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  15. I JUST READ THIS NOW...AND IT TOUCHED ME ALL THE WAY... I'M HAVING SO MANY UNCERTAINTIES NOW.. MY LAST UNPROTECTED SEX WAS JANUARY OF LAST YEAR...AND I COMPLETED MY HIV TESTS FOR 6 MONTHS, ONE IN APRIL AND ANOTHER IN JULY...ALL NEGA... BUT RIGHT NOW, IM HAVING THIS TONSILITIS, AND I AM SO PARANOID NOW...I BEGAN SEARCHING FOR ANSWERS AGAIN... I AM TAKING THE TEST TOMORROW... WISH ME LUCK AND PRAY FOR ME... I SO LOVE YOUR BLOG!

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